We all have those days when we just can’t seem to feel our true self. Full of life, energy and optimism. Those days where you feel drained and the only thing you want to do is just go lay on a beach somewhere, while being served pina coladas.
Those days for me are dreaded ones. Seeing that I do not always have the privilege of going to the beach in the middle of the working day, I often resort to watching youtube videos when I need a bit of a pick me up, and youtube never fails me (and sometimes I do find a nice destination documentary that works. Hey I can’t have the beach so why not look at it). Outside of the destination videos I always seem to find the perfect one that will help get my mind right and help guide me back on the right course. I was feeling a bit out of sorts the other day and a bit flustered. So I went searching. I found this video called “Law of Attraction-Don’t Look Back.’ One of the speakers was Les Brown and the video went on to mention how important it is to believe in yourself and your abilities. In addition it emphasised that we shouldn’t let fear cripple our dreams and that sometimes we should just throw caution to the wind and jump into our dreams without restraint. Side note: I encourage you to spend your internet time engaged in activities that will help elevate you and assist you in reaching your goals. Youtube has a variety of informative videos that can be useful to anyone, no matter your age, race, sex or nationality. Honestly I’ve learned a number of things from Youtube that benefit me in my everyday life and not to mention saves me money.
The video I found that day really helped me put some things in perspective and cleared my head. I was able to decide on a promising way forward. Therefore my dampened spirit was alleviated. I was quite pleased with the message I received, as it really encouraged me to be resilient. Leap and grow wings on your way down was what I needed to hear in that moment. Surprisingly, this is actually the method I employed when I started this blog. The truth is I was really nervous. I was so scared because I wasn’t sure if this would work. I wasn’t sure if what I’d write would interest anyone and I was concerned about the criticism that may come as a result. However, at that point in my life I was on a journey and this included being completely dedicated to my self improvement. You see I had promised myself to live fully, and live my truth whether people liked it or not and that I would never abandon my mission. As long as this was my truth I’d stand by it! And part of living my truth was expressing myself through writing. Honestly, I have always had a love for writing. I did it a lot when I was younger and I was reminded of that recently when my mom handed me this notebook of mine that she had found filled with poems (hah! thanks heavens it wasn’t a journal). The thing is around that same time I was really considering writing poetry again and this seemed almost as if it were a sign from the universe, as if it were saying ‘I heard your hearts desire and yes you should go for it.’
So I went for it! I threw caution to the wind and I jumped in. I wrote my first blog, added a few other pages where I expressed a bit more of my thoughts, considered deleting the entire site completely, thought to myself, ‘what the hell are you thinking?’, thought that it was a crazy idea, made several excuses why I shouldn’t do it, took deep breaths, considered screaming to the top of my lungs, calmed myself, gave myself a brief pep talk about why I wanted to do this in the first place, decided to keep the content I had written, grabbed my iphone and messaged my siblings and my friends Rene and Kenny. I said, ‘hey guys I did something adventurous, I started a blog.’ I hit send and I hurriedly put my phone back on my desk almost as if it were hot bread. Followed by a session of tapping my fingers on my desk and biting my lower lip.
Coincidentally, Leap and grow wings on your way down had become my philosophy for 2017 even before I had heard the very words from Les Brown. You see after walking softly in life for too long I decided to stomp the ground that I walked on and shake things up a bit. I was tired of shrinking to please others and being scared. So I decided to live for me and believe in my own strengths and abilities. This was my life and I was going to live it the way I wanted to, in all of it’s magnificent glory; flaws and all. And even if I didn’t perfect something, I would start, I would try and if I failed I would learn from my failures, developing my wings as I made my way down. You see that’s the only way I’d learn how to fly, by falling and trusting that I had the capability to grow very strong wings of my own. Sometimes our first step is all it takes to unlock our miracle. The very catalyst we needed to catapult us to our destiny. Sometimes for us to fly, we need to fall.
After leaping you may be faced with several difficulties that may cause you to be discouraged, but don’t give in. Life will give you that whether you take risks or not, so why not face the challenges while you’re moving forward toward a goal. You will realise in these moments that you are stronger than you ever imagined and that all it had to take was that leap of faith in order to get your wings to start growing. If you’ve never tried to fly how would your wings even know it had to capability to fly?
Here’s a few tips I’ve discovered for managing your life post leap that will allow you to grow wings and serve as character building techniques as well.
Tips to Grow Wings
- Don’t be too hard on yourself-after your great leap you will be faced with challenges along the way. You will make mistakes and that is something we all have to deal with. However, don’t be too hard on yourself. How would you speak to a friend or family member who was going through a tough time? Great! You got the answer. Then you do the same for yourself. Give yourself a pep talk that will encourage you and get you back out there more energised and enthusiastic than ever. Say, ‘it’s okay, I’ve got this or this is not the end I will learn from this mistake and move on.’ Also encourage yourself by realising that this mistake is a step toward something important that you’re working on and the sooner you are faced with the mistakes or the obstacles the faster you will get to your goals.
- Develop a personal risk management plan- in other words ensure that you have a plan B,C,D and maybe E too. Life is life and life happens, so why not prepare for those uncertainties that will arise. As with projects you’re usually required to develop a risk management plan in order to mitigate events that could significantly delay or terminate a project if they occur. We are proactive with our jobs so why not apply the same strategy to our lives. According to a saying I’ve heard, ‘if plan A doesn’t work there are 25 other letters to work with.’
- Take time out-this doesn’t mean you stop. It means that you take a breather. It’s okay to relax and reflect. Take some deep breaths and release the mistake. This could be through exercise, yoga, meditation, a spa day with friends or solo, travel, dinner with family or close friends, a day at the beach or forest bathing. Whatever method you decide to apply ensure that in the end it allows you to relax, reflect and have a clearer understanding of what your next move is in order to reach your goal.
- Pull the Positive and Let go of the Mistake- yes pull the positive! We can all learn a thing or two from our mistakes or the obstacles that we face. That in itself will keep us from getting frustrated and making the situation a stressful one. Calm yourself and ask yourself what lessons can I learn from this unpleasant situation? Take the lesson and release the mistake. Release all the negative feelings associated with that event and use the positive lessons to fuel your drive toward your goal. Release the mistake and allow yourself to grow. If you’re a more visual person and you would rather make this a personal activity you could decide to do something like writing the experience on a piece of paper, placing it in a bottle or balloon and releasing it into the ocean or into the air respectively. Or maybe you’d rather get rid of the negative feelings associated with the experience through meditation and prayer. There are several ways to do this and believe me it helps. You decide what works best for you.
- Get out there and soar!
“You don’t have to be great to get started, but you have to get started to be great.”-Les Brown. Sometimes all it takes is trust in your ability to start a thing and get it done. This doesn’t mean that you will not make mistakes, in fact you will. However these mistakes will only help with your refining and most likely be a character building experience. So expect the mistakes and take it in stride, have the right attitude towards your mistakes, stay focused and don’t be too hard on yourself. Just trust that you will reach your goal, trust that you have everything within you to be successful. Maybe it won’t happen today or tomorrow, maybe it will take longer than others have, but trust that God has you and your blessing is on its way. So go on and leap!